Coming into touch with your Inner Child means coming into touch with the ways in which you were wounded as a child. These wounds usually created in the first eight years of life when we are developing emotionally and our brains are still very ‘mouldable’. Things that happen to us during this window of our development stay with us, and have a huge bearing on how we will be for the rest of our lives.
By noticing our wounds and bringing them into our conscious awareness, we are able to feel love and compassion for ourselves and others, as well as noticing our humble, imperfect humanity (instead of a grandiose God-like perfection). By embracing our inner child, we can grieve our childhood woundings, and transform them into gateways to our soul.
This meditation was created by John Bradshaw and taken from his excellent book, ‘Healing the Shame that Binds You‘. It is ten minutes long and takes you on a journey to reconnect with your Inner Child.
Try this ‘Path to an Empowered Heart’, from ‘Anatomy of the Spirit’ by Caroline Myss PHD
- Commit yourself to healing all the way to the source of the pain. This means turning inward and coming to know your wounds
- Identify your wounds: have someone witness them and their influence upon you
- Once you have verbalized your wounds, do not use them to exert power over others
- Identify the good that can and has come from your wounds. Start living within the consciousness of gratitude and appreciation
- Take on the task of forgiveness: liberate your psyche from the need for personal vengeance and the perception of oneself as a victim. Consider a forgiveness ritual where you let go of any resentment you may be holding
- Think love. Live in appreciation and gratitude. Invite change into your life, if only through your attitude: focus on the present.
Suffering and grief acknowledges that all things that we love will not be around for ever…
One way of forgiveness, and learning to respond to others from your heart is by using the HeartMath ‘Freezeframe Technique’:
- Recognise when a stressful event is happening and ‘freeze the frame’: freeze your state of mind and don’t make a mental response.
- Shift your attention to the area of your heart and stay focused in this area.
- Recall a joyful or fun-filled event in your life, or someone who you love fully.
- Open your intuition and common sense and ask your heart what would be the best response to the situation. What behaviour on your part would be most effective in resolving tensions?
- Listen to what you feel is your heart’s response.
- Act on your heart’s response.